How to be a Good fag/slave

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francodt: With all the advice out there on how to be a good fag, i’ve found that much of it misses the basics that can really lead to fulfilling service to Kings and Alphas. Many have asked how i do it, so want to pass along what has worked out for me as well as what hasn’t. As background, i am a fit, attractive, white collar professional with two degrees from top 10 schools. i have a great career and generally good life. Yet, i find i am happiest when i am serving Alphas, serving my Dom, my King. Here are a few major facts i learned to be absolutely true and even necessary:

LEARN SKILLS THAT PLEASE. i thought i was big shit getting my professional licenses on the first try. Having a great job. Expensive apartment, Nice watches, cars. None of it mattered when it came to finding men to serve. i found i had to attend cooking school and learn to cook healthy, gourmet meals for Alphas. i got certified in massage to provide relief to them. i learned to iron and tailor clothes for them. i looked for best practices in cleaning their homes. i learned to take care of men’s everyday needs. The result was i got more attention from Alpha’s i served and got invited more. It was a progression from say a massage one day to getting my holes used after a few sessions, but when you get there, to the point the Alpha sees you have more value to him than just a cumrag, He’ll want you around a lot more to serve Him.

DROP THE ATTITUDE. i had a cumdump bottom buddy who met a big dicked Latin guy that fucked him 7, 8–even 9 times a day. Even i was jealous. Sometimes the top came in him. Other times he didn’t cum at all. My friend asserts he was A LOT of fun. But one day, my buddy told all his friends that the top was too old (10 years older) and was no longer attracted to his face. Buuyyyyyeee! A year later, that cumdump admits not finding another top as horny as the one he threw shade to. Be less about artificial shit and more about the reward for serving dick, getting the load. By dropping many of what now seem to be ridiculous standards, i’ve seen the amount of Alpha cock available to me increase fivefold.


WORK HARD ON YOURSELF. i used to go to the gym to stay in shape and trained to prevent sports injuries. Now i go to get stronger and grow bigger, become more desirable for Alphas to want me around. i look better than a lot of younger guys and it is noticed. Read about different subjects to gain knowledge. Meditate to be calm and ready for whatever your Alpha requests of you. Be on-point about details, be it the frequency of your haircut or keeping shaved and smooth. Be the best presentation of you that you can be for your Alpha.

KEEP A SLAVE/FAG JOURNAL. This concept was introduced to me by @topguydave when i started to serve Him in person out west. He would have me journal online every night. It served not only as an outlet to unload my thoughts, but also as insight for Him into what was going on in my head. In turn, He really got to know me and it guided Him as to how to best train me. The result was an amazing journey and even friendship that is only impeded by a change in time zone and distance. i grew very much as His fag, so much so that the mere sight of Him makes me feel love, calm and pride. Remember, Alphas are human and can’t read fag minds–unless emptied onto paper!

WORK THROUGH YOUR ISSUES. We all have them. it was a process, but i eventually admitted i am a fag. i don’t feel shame or embarrassment. i know my place. i continue to do what i do for a living, but more importantly, i elevate Alphas and help them succeed. i’m still working on a hot button: financial use. It arises from being ripped off years ago of over 100k. As I continue meeting Alphas, i get better at it affecting me. i get better at being up front. i get better at reminding myself that it will eventually not be an issue anymore. And i thus get better at serving Alphas.

FAIL. A LOT. i’ve failed some awesome Doms–Doms i was LUCKY to serve. Failed at tasks. Failed at communicating. Failed at doing what i said. Failed at being on-time. Failed at never being half-assed. Failed at being a true fag. Sometimes it was because of my own hubris. Others, it was my stubbornness–something i constantly denied when pointed out by one particular cocky top Alpha (he was right, btw). But we fags can learn from these failures. A bunch of failures behind you means you won’t make those mistakes twice. you’ll be better prepared to serve your Alpha, be the best fag possible for Him. i am more attractive to Alphas because i know what doesn’t work. That alone is enough motivation to not fear failure.

SHOW GRATITUDE. Forget the cliches. Thank your Alpha for the opportunity to serve at every opportunity. Tell Him thank You as you serve Him. Text Him afterwards. Email Him how grateful You are for the opportunity. Show Him he is truly your King and You know it. Like your parents used to say, thank you goes a long way. And it really does.