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An advanced, kinky technique called “Orgasm Control.”
Introduction: Setting The Goal.
I have two male slaves. They are both sixty years old. I have been training them for years, using positive reinforcement, keen observation and fierce, unswerving determination.
I have them both trained to go from completely flaccid, to full-body orgasms in less than sixty seconds, while using nothing but my voice. I have done this many, many times.
When an earlier submissive was 61 years old, I made him have seven orgasms within a two-hour play-period, until he begged me to stop… “It feels like my spine is coming out of my cock!”
I can also issue a command for them to cum during a play-scene, and they will, within seconds.
This has NOTHING to do with penis size, or any other physical characteristic. It’s sheerly seduction, and the power of the mind.
It Ain’t Bragging If It’s True
The purpose of this article is to teach other Doms the same techniques.
FIRST, you have to KNOW that such results are possible. None of these sexual trainings are ever featured in porn. You can search the Internet all day, and not find similar information, because it requires subtlety and perception. This is advanced-level stuff.
Controlling Orgasms
Each of the sexual results that I listed above, fall under the topic of Orgasm Control. It’s a definite and desired specialty. It’s a perversion that is all about domination. The current conversation about Cum Control is nearly all about cock-caging. I’m a big fan, but cages are sort of a sledgehammer technique. I will be teaching in a very different direction.
My History
Where did I get the necessary techniques? Well, I didn’t make them up on my own.
Back in the 1970′s, I had gone from enduring a repressive childhood, to openly gay, and then eagerly diving DEEP into the gay-male Kink/Leather/Fetish crowd.
As I have said before, I have Topped an enormous number of men, at hundreds of huge fist/flog/fuck-parties, and in smaller groups. Afterward, I would always ask “How could I have done that better?” Many of the men back then were deeply experienced sexual athletes, and they would gladly answer my questions.
I was using sex to draw men of all ages closer to me, and then get my REAL payoff, which was earned wisdom. I was ferociously driven to improve my abilities. Unlike so many men who enjoyed those times to the fullest, I didn’t die. So, now I will reveal what I learned….
Investing For The Long Term
If you are still in the phase where you are “liberating your dick,” (interested primarily in QUANTITY of sex), then these instructions might be arriving too early for you. Bookmark this page, and go have a great time. That’s a natural and normal phase.
Once you have transitioned naturally to the search for QUALITY in interpersonal dynamics, come on back and try again. I say this seriously, because there has to be a deep desire to rock a long-term, collared submissive’s world… To metaphorically lift off the top of his skull, find the big, red button in his pleasure center, and then JAM your thumb down on it.
The way that you start is by being in a long-term, mutually-investing relationship. Wildly-successful Orgasm Control usually (USUALLY) isn’t possible with a casual, one-time fling, though I have accomplished it. I will explain how, later.
Interviewing The Sub
Let’s say that you are a Dom Top, with a freshly-collared submissive male, who wants very badly to please you. His whole life is focused upon your pleasure. It’s time to get some information.
Demand feedback at all times. Before, during and after a scene. Pay attention to what words or concepts get him the hottest. Notice the patterns of his desires, even if he doesn’t realize what he is revealing. Drill down to what really rocks his world.
Example: If you have issued orders for him to send you an email with five fantasy scenarios that excite him, even if they scare him, you might notice that nearly all of them bring up some form of basic, narrow desire: immobilization, or gangbangs, or breath control. That’s a good start. Keep that in mind for later.
No two subs are the same. Your goal is to learn everything that you can about THIS one.
I Am Not Describing A Chinese Menu
A lot of times, an eager Sir will veer toward becoming a Service Top, where the effort of pleasing the sub can be all about the sub, to the point of forgetting about our own needs. The trap that we can fall into is where we get the sub’s fantasies presented to us on a plate, and so we pick one from Column A, and two from Column B. This is called the Chinese Menu approach.
I urge my fellow Sirs to step away from that trap. The goal is to make note of what the sub wants, and then to add your OWN desires to the mix, so that we are gently training the sub to expand his basic desires into new, exciting and pleasurable areas.
The Positive Feedback Loop
This is best accomplished by using ONLY pleasurable rewards. Inflicting unwanted stimulation provides negative response, so we don’t do that. If you are going to attain the result of playing your sub like a violin, then you have to be constantly dedicated to polishing your technique. Each scene needs to build toward the next one.
When I am training a new sub, I make sure that he consciously notices when something wonderful happens. I never miss any opportunity to reward desirable results.
As one example: If he can’t control himself and cums “early” during a scene, most men will apologize. After all, porn orgasms don’t happen that fast, and he is sure that he must have screwed up. Instead, I praise him, saying something like “I LOVE to see a man cum so easily. Men with a fast trigger are the ones who are the most trainable.”
Just like that, I am programming him in a particular direction. He wants to please his Sir, so he lets go of his inhibitions and his old, shame-based judgments about himself. I am creating a new, pleasurable reality for him. The deeper he goes into further submission, the more that he pleases me, and he knows it without question, because I keep rewarding him.
Everybody wins.
Wisteria Vines
I tend to use visual metaphors. So, here is one of my favorites:
When two tendrils of a Wisteria vine meet each other, they twine around each other, and start sharing their growth together. They will grow one way, and then another, but always together.
I use this metaphor as a description of how two dedicated kinksters can enjoy years and years of pleasurable interaction because they are exploring TOGETHER. Shit happens, life intrudes, things aren’t always optimal, and yet, we keep on growing. Together.
So, What Does This Have To Do With Orgasms?
Easy, cowboy… All of this is relevant.
In order for a man to shift away from easy, I’ll-just-jack-off-to-porn patterns of getting off, he needs darned good reasons to do so. When he has a Sir who focuses upon his pleasure, then entirely-new possibilities open up. His envelope of experience keeps expanding. That’s the ideal scenario.
Making Powerful Declarations
Our surrounding culture doesn’t put much positive emphasis on being responsible. It’s kind of a throwaway concept.
Not in my world.
When I get a new sub off, and it’s the best orgasm that he’s ever had, and he’s all astonished and pleased, I make a powerful declaration: "It only gets better.” This astonishes the sub, because he can’t imagine how that could be.
I am the one who really benefits from that declaration - It forces me to keep my word. It is a statement of what I stand for, and what my intentions are for the future. I am a man of integrity. I may not have any logical proof that I will deliver better and better orgasms, but I am wide-open to possibility.
When I happily strive to make it even BETTER for him, time after time, then he relaxes and trusts me even MORE. He drops whatever shields he may have had, because I am demonstrably the kind of man who follows through.
I am programming him to succeed.
Cumming On Command
If I am training a sub to orgasm when I tell him to do so, I plan for it over a period of months. Each time that I succeed in getting him off, I watch to see when he is getting close to cumming, Just before the point of no return, I ORDER him to cum. Well, he was going to, anyway, but now, it had the added bonus of making the Sir happy. That makes HIM happy.
This means that he is being programmed to please his Sir with orgasms. Each time that we do this, it gets easier for him to please me. His old concerns and considerations fade away. He is becoming more animalistic and uninhibited. He starts cumming more wildly, and more thoroughly. Orgasms last longer, and take over more of his body.
Cumming Multiple Times
In some cases (the sub that cums quickly as a natural reaction), I will have trained him to cum multiple times. I shove him right over the edge into complete pleasure, using what I know will excite him the most. We cuddle for fifteen or twenty minutes, Then, I do it AGAIN. He doesn’t have a choice. I am domming him into uncontrolled ecstasy. I am being sadistically pleasurable.
After a few months of relentlessly-dedicated training using positive reinforcement, then I have complete control over all parts of him, including his orgasms, which belong to me, now and forever.
Using My Voice
Hark back to what I said about gathering information about the sub’s deepest fantasies. He has triggers that always push him over the edge. It’s my pleasurable duty or seek these out, and to exploit them.
After rewarding a sub for cumming for my pleasure for a few years, then I can use only my voice while he jacks off. I talk dirty, but honestly. I verbally express my honest fantasies that involve the sub. This makes him go nuts with pleasure. Blam! Time to scrub the walls.
Doing The Same, But With A Newbie
This is ridiculously easy, as long as you understand one thing about subs: Their dirtiest fantasies almost ALWAYS involve gangbangs. If you were to walk into an Adult Store and peruse the porn shelves, a large amount of it involves one sub being fucked by many men. This is hardwired into human sexual natures, despite what we have been taught.
It’s neither wrong nor right. It just is. So, knowing that, we Sirs can exploit that fantasy. I recently wrote about the
pleasures of being a Pimp Daddy. Not every sub is ready to do that, and his concerns are valid and important.
HOWEVER, if I declare that we are now entering entirely into the world of fantasy, and that my goal is to get him fucked properly by lots of juicy cocks of different sizes, then BLAM! - He’s so hot that he can’t hold back any longer. I gave him express permission to dive deep into what excites him.
I just used my Dom influence to make him more of a sexual beast.
In Summation
I am not saying that all of this will work for everyone, every time. However, I do say that a strong desire to own every orgasm is how we build success upon success. A deep, laser focus on sexually dominating a sub always pays off big in pure, eager submission. It’s the perfect win-win scenario, and we create it over time.
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