Showing posts with label #Service. Show all posts
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Tuesday, January 15, 2019

Housekeeping for Subs

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mrsmanwife:

With much focus on sex in the Dom/sub world - I thought I’d write some useful, old-fashioned “good housekeeping” material for subs who may be interested in how to best serve their Dom/master/husband/Sir better.

I’ll start with the Bathroom as it’s one of the most important places in the home.

Clean, clean and clean some more. Whether your man spends 10 minutes or 40 in the bathroom - you want it to be the best for him.

Don’t be afraid to pull out an old toothbrush (or yours if that’s your thing) and really get to work. Make that bathroom sparkle. Keep the mirrors clean and the shower glass spotless at all times. Polish the fixtures - watermarks and soap scum are not sexy.

Always be sure there is a well stocked supply of the necessities your man will need for his daily routines. Keep the toilet paper full. Check his razor, do the blades need changed? Do it. If it’s electric, make sure to empty it daily and have it charged. The same goes for clippers, hair removal devices, etc. Always be sure to keep extra batteries around if not rechargeable.

Make sure his favourite cleansers, soap, deodorant, etc are in stock. When they get low, change them. You don’t want your hard working man to have to worry about running out of shower gel.

Always keep clean towels in good supply. Line dried and then tumbled preferably. It never hurts to have a warm towel ready for him as he steps out of the shower or bath either. Also, make sure that bathmat is dry and ready for the next time he uses it. I highly recommend keeping cedar in the bathroom drawers or closet to give the room a pleasant, natural scent.

Once you initially get his bathroom up to the level of cleaniless he deserves, clean it daily. It is much, much easier to maintain with 15 minutes of work vs. Leaving it until you do your weekly chores.

I guarantee your man will notice your hard work as you notice and respect his.

Saturday, January 12, 2019

How fear drives a slave’s existence

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self-aware-faggot: Carlos is not a terribly expressive Master. Realistically, i do not really expect Him to thank me daily for changing the sheets on His bed, or ironing His underwear, or making His dinner. He doesn’t have to thank me because as a total Alpha male, He is entitled to this kind of service. He expects to be served in this way just as He expects that when He inhales, there will be oxygen for His lungs. Being served is just a natural part of His existence.

Nor do i expect to be thanked. i serve Him because He is what He is: a natural born Alpha entitled to be worshiped and served. And, of course, i serve Him because i am what i am: a natural born faggot, the whole reason for whose existence on the planet is to serve and worship Superior Alpha Males. i no more deserve to be thanked for cleaning His toilet or paying His rent that i deserve to be thanked for breathing. This is just natural.

Still, Carlos sometimes expresses His gratitude. He’ll give me that killer smile that just melts my heart. Or He’ll touch me on the shoulder that way He does that just sends chills to my spine. There are a million, mostly non-verbal ways, in which He lets me know that He is satisfied with my service and my adoration. Still, i have to take it on faith that my service is pleasing to Him. Because as soon as my service is no longer pleasing to Him, He undoubtedly will dispose of me and find Himself a different slave. That is His absolute right.

For a slave, the past is never prologue. i understand that i must earn anew, each day, the privilege of serving Him. i can (and should) take nothing for granted. It is this fear (am i pleasing Him as much as i could? are there other ways in which i could serve Him? am i being presumptuous is assuming that He wants me to do this or that?) that represents a constant tension in a slave’s life. That tension is what keeps a slave sharp (and also keeps it up at night).

Thursday, January 10, 2019

Life for a 24/7 Slave, In Detail

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Your post on being a 24/7 slave is awesome. Could you tell us more on your daily life? How is it? Are you really a slave to your owner 24 hours a day? How much is sex? When sex is over, are you still a slave? I am curious of the limitations of real life.
limitlesspig:

Yes, I am fully, totally, completely owned, 24/7/365. That doesn’t mean I’m locked in a cage when I’m not directly serving my Owner, although we do live together. It just means He has complete control, all day, every day, from big things to little things.

For example:


I’m always locked in one of the chastity devices. (We rotate through them every weekend when He takes one off so I can clean and shave around it under supervision.) I am not allowed to ejaculate, although I do sometimes ooze actual cum instead of just precum, and sometimes I have something like an orgasm when He fucks me that I can only describe by saying it feels good and is kind of like a shudder deep in my ass and groin but isn't the ball-clenching, cock-throbbing convulsion of the kind men call an orgasm.

The general rule is I don’t wear clothes when He is home and only underwear when He isn’t. (I do get an apron in the kitchen to avoid splatters.) And, no, He doesn’t keep the thermostat very high.
Every time He has to piss when He’s home, I drink it, sometimes from His cock, sometimes from a glass. (Glasses are mostly from when I’ve disappointed Him somehow and He doesn’t want me near His cock. I usually get it cold then, too.)

He hasn’t said my real name since the day He claimed me. (There’s no set replacement. If He has a favorite or a default, it’s “fuckpuppet.“ He mostly calls me whatever He feels like at the moment, or whatever suits what’s going on. It’s usually something like “bitch,” “cunt,” “pig,” or “cumdump” during sex. When He’s feeling proud or pleased or particularly affectionate, He calls me “boy,” and I when I hear that I know I’ve done a good job. I hear it a lot, but not as much as “fuckpuppet.” If He’s talking about me to someone else, I’m “the boy” or “my boy” if they’re not really in the BDSM lifestyle; if they’re in the lifestyle and I’ve been less than satisfactory, it’s usually “my pig” or “my bitch” or “my slave.”)

I call Him "Sir” without exception (He hates “Master” and think it sounds too much like Darth Vader talking to the Emperor) and I refer to Him as “my Owner" to everyone except our families and at work. (Yes, it is very embarrassing at times, but it would be a lot worse if He didn’t allow those exceptions. To be clear, I am not ashamed: He is awesome and I love Him and I am proud He considers me worthy of Him and I can usually say it the first time without turning red, but 90% of the time the person I’m talking to doesn’t understand or doesn’t believe what they heard if they’ve never heard it before, so they say, “What did you say?” and I have to repeat it.) Although, to be honest, I only have to say “He” or “Him” to the regular people in our lives and they know exactly Who I’m talking about, especially since most sentences go something like, “Sorry, He doesn’t want…” or “He said I could….”

He handles all the finances. He has a power of attorney. I signed my car title and gave it to Him. My paychecks are deposited into His accounts. If I want to buy something that He hasn’t specifically told me to buy, I ask Him first. I carry $20 cash for unexpected contingencies and a debit card, and I don’t know how much is in the account it goes to. I haven’t seen a bank statement, logged into an online account, written a check, or paid a bill since He claimed me. 

If something were to happen to Him, there’s an encrypted flash drive with information on it and one of our friends has the password. (I don’t recommend this for everyone. I knew Him for months before He claimed me. I know His job and His qualifications. We each lived comfortably on our own before He claimed me and I know He doesn’t need to take advantage of me. Most importantly, I trust him. But this arrangement does give Him control.)

Daily life varies, especially because my Owner travels a lot for work. Most often, it’s a few days each week, but sometimes it’s a stretch of a week or more at a time. Usually, I’m actually busier when He is gone because He leaves a long list of chores for me to do, but that is when I usually get a few minutes here and there to do things like come check Tumblr for messages–and when I do, I check a few pages of dashboard and save some posts to come back to later to tag, caption, and queue when I have a large block of time like this morning.

On a typical workday when He is home, I get up at 4:30 to go to the gym. (Tip for subs: I’m lucky because my Owner lets me sleep with Him in bed, especially since He sleeps a lot later. This became possible thanks to finding a vibrating alarm clock I can wear on my wrist like a watch at night.) When I get back home, I clean up, then make and pack our lunches. I wake Him at 6:45. (Sorry, porn fans, I don’t crawl under the covers and blow Him. I just kneel by the bed and nudge Him gently.) 

If I’m lucky, He uses me. Some days He does, some days He doesn’t. If He does, some days it’s oral, some days it’s anal. If He fucks me, I’ll wear a butt plug to help hold His cum in for the rest of the day. Then while He cleans up, I make the bed, get dressed (I wear pretty much the same thing every day at work), and make breakfast. Now that the mornings have started to be cold, I throw a towel in the dryer for a few minutes when He’s in the shower before I fold it and put it on the sink so it’s warm for Him when He gets out.

It’s pretty much routine, domestic life from when He starts getting ready for work, although sometimes He spanks or paddles my ass right before I leave for work. This isn’t for punishment; some days He just likes sending me off that way so I’ll have a reminder of Him every time I sit down. We eat breakfast and He tells me anything special I should do that evening, like if there’s anything I should buy at the grocery store or anything He wants for dinner, picking up dry cleaning, that kind of thing. I go to work first; He leaves about an hour later.

Work is just work. If people from the office want to go out to lunch or I need to work late, I text Him. Sometimes He lets me, sometimes He doesn’t. If what He wants and what work wants conflict, He wins. (I’ve looked for years for the perfect Owner: He is irreplaceable; my job is not, even in this market.)

I do any errands that need to be done on the way home. When I get there, I cook dinner, trying to time it to be ready about an hour after He usually gets home. Until He does, I do more routine, domestic stuff: take out trash, do laundry, put away groceries or dry cleaning, whatever needs to be done.

When He comes home, He’s usually tired and stressed. He reads or watches tv or plays PS3 to unwind while I serve Him. This always involves massaging and licking His feet; sometimes I massage the rest, too, especially His scalp, neck, shoulders, and back. If I’m lucky, I’ll get to spend quality time with my face in His crotch, too, especially if He lets me worship His cock and balls. It isn’t rushed or overtly sexual, though; it’s just time to help Him relax, but sometimes I do get to make Him cum.

This pretty much lasts until the buzzer goes off that dinner is ready. We eat and He goes back to the living room while I clean the kitchen and dining room. I go back to Him when I’m done and do whatever He tells me. Sometimes it’s sex, sometimes it’s chores, sometimes it’s just being quiet somewhere and leaving Him alone. If I’ve fucked something up that day, He punishes me. (He never punishes me right when He comes home from work.) 

If I’m really lucky, and I’m so caught up He can’t think of any chores that need to be done, and I really did a good job helping Him relax, and dinner was really well executed, and I’ve gotten Him off so He’s satisfied, He lets me sit on the sofa with Him for a while, either leaning up against Him while He watches tv or lying with my head in His lap while He reads. Sometimes He gets hardcore after dinner, but it’s rare on a work night.

He sends me to bed around 10. He comes up later. Sometimes He wakes me to fuck me or get sucked, sometimes He doesn’t.

That’s a typical weekday when He’s home. It probably sounds pretty boring to people who think the BDSM lifestyle is all fucking and sucking, whips and chains, cum and tears. But my Owner usually only gets hardcore on weekends, when He’s home. But there is no typically weekend; they are all quite different, depending on His moods. Of course, there are variations on weeknights, too, if we go out, or if someone comes over, but that’s the typical day.

So how is my life? It is awesome and I have never been happier or more fulfilled. Thanks for asking!

How I Serve

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beastpup:

I don’t know many things for sure about myself, but I do know this: I live to serve.

8 months ago, I was able to embrace my submissive side and say “this is who I am”. Since then I journey, I observe, I struggle and yet I go deeper into understanding. What follows are my meandering thoughts and opinions.

One thing I observe is that each sub / pup’s style of service, what they need, how they express it, is unique to them. Whatever master or owner they have, this doesn’t change. We have our core, our essence, guiding our actions and our hearts.

For some the style and essence is about the humiliation, the satisfaction of knowing there is no depth of abasement they cannot take to absolve their humanity. With self-respect stripped away, there are no barriers to what can be performed. I can only imagine this is incredibly liberating. I would call this type of slave the pig.



I’ve had some dominants try to approach and woo me like a pig. Verbal abuse the opening calling-card to test the nature of my submission. How very unsuccessful they are.

Other submissives throw themselves on the altar of adolescence; putting themselves before their “daddy” and showing tender vulnerability in how they need to be nurtured with their master to be better in their lives. I would dub these slaves the boy. Giving absolute loyalty and affection to those they serve, but taking the support, the guidance in a retrograde path back to adulthood and potential. And who doesn’t need some outside sustenance in their lives? What a wonderful way to crystallze it to a pure, accessible and loving form.

But even this I turn from. I know anyone can see my struggles and know that yes… I do need nurturing. But have more to give my master. Much more. I endure much, and through these trials I know that I am not a boy, I am not a pig.

I don’t have a master. One day I will be lucky enough to have that in my life. And to you, if you’re our there, reading this, my future owner. Let me tell you how I submit and what I offer.

I am a servant. I am a slave and I exist to make you happy and my highest satisfaction is making your life more comfortable. If you think of an archetype in fiction, I exist… I am Alfred in Batman, I am Carson in Downton Abby. I am the butler. (And a beast, a bull, a pup…) 



I want to serve you in quiet dignity. To perform each task with relish and pleasure, be it making your breakfast, your supper, your bed. But this style isn’t just a domestic calling; It’s about something you are proud to own. When we are around others, be it friends, family, strangers and they see me at your command, performing with love and loyalty whatever is asked, they can’t help but be impressed. I can always give and do more, and I will. Upgrading my skills. Upgrading myself. Bigger beast for his master. The ultimate servant.

I only seek this purpose in my life, because otherwise all the work I put in to make a success of my business, my bodybuilding, anything really… all seems so pointless. When I began this journey in meeting the man I thought I was destined so serve, there was such a relief and a feeling like I had a reason to go on. The loss of that relationship left me feeling purposeless again… but no, I still want purpose. I’m not going to raise children. I’m not going to be an activist or save endangered species.

But if I can change one man’s life, if I can raise him up higher than all others and make HIS life that of a god… then my time on this existence will have been well spent. And all the pain and all the struggles for a reason.

And that is how I serve. That is how I will serve you. I’m only holding on for the day I kneel at your feet, and I earn a collar at last.

- Beast.

Tuesday, January 8, 2019

A Submissive View: Loathsome Tasks

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furryguy2:

How do you deal with performing tasks you loath but your Sir requires you to perform?

There are very few tasks He requires me to do that I loath. Pleasuring Him is the best task in the world, I will do just about anything for Him. We do have some hard lines that neither of us will cross but otherwise everything is on the table. We are working now on a new task that I find very difficult, anal, (I know that most slaves would be expected to do this without question but I have health reasons why I am scared of it) but He has started to play with my anus and it’s obvious that He wants to explore more. I will, of course, let Him as I trust him implicitly not to hurt me.

We were in a local sauna once, playing with another Master and slave when the other Master wanted to fuck me. I really didn’t want another person, Master of not, fucking me, so I clung to my Sirs leg and used my safe word, the other Master didn’t hear it but my Sir acted on it and  didn’t let it happen. However, if He had wanted it to happen (and we had agreed it beforehand, its something that we hadn’t discussed) I would have done it to please Him.

As yet nothing that I loath has come up, I think it would have to be something like introducing a woman into our play or play with faeces to be considered ‘loathsome’ and they would come under hard lines.

newboi12345:

When you get wired for service, those situations will bring you pleasure. Not from that activity itself, but from the satisfaction of MAKING YOURSELF DO THEM simply because you want to please your Master. I often do things I am not interested in doing, derive no physical pleasure from, but get an absolute emotional thrill from going through with because it will please the man that requested it. When that happens, you truly submit.

At times, in the beginning of a Dom/sub relationship, the Dom may choose to stay on your “accepted list” and not push you too hard. It is only after time, in a real Power Exchange, that you will be pushed into that zone where it is work to complete the action. When you truly get there, you may find many activities on your “no” list will become another experience in your Master’s service whether a one-time occurrence or regularly demanded action. The delivery of them at your Master’s command will be instantaneous, without consideration, and done to bring you the pleasure of service.

Sunday, January 6, 2019

Submitting to a Master vs. Being “Treated Like Shit”

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mastershumanproperty:

Before slave was a slave, it imagined serving a Master to be very different than it ended up being.

it had always imagined being treated like shit. it had imagined horrible (but always consented to!) treatment. it expected abuse.

This is a bit of a tricky subject to discuss, because BDSM has a bit of a tendency to look like abuse as it is anyway. But in becoming Master’s slave, it cannot say it ever EVER feels like it is being treated like shit.

There are times when Master asks things that are hard for slave. There are times when Master asks slave to serve in ways that are unpleasant for it. There are times when Master asks for submission that is all about His pleasure or amusement, and slave’s opinion of the task isn’t really relevant. There are times where, if you watched slave serve, it’d look pretty close to all those rough, affectionless porn videos.

But slave’s expectations of slavery ended up not being met at all. it is never abused. it is never made to feel worthless. Even as it SAYS it feels worthless, or like a faggot…. that is all coming from headspace. That is all coming from the fact that, in reality, slave feels safe.

slave has been given safety and slave has been given freedom.

slave has fantasies of being humiliated and manhandled. Thrown around a bit. Master has given it a safe environment to explore in. slave can go deep and call itself worthless or imagine itself as various pieces of human furniture… because it is constantly being supported by a Master who is bolstering its sense of self-worth. it is being supported by a Master with a TON of respect for it, who holds a high opinion of it, and voices His belief in it, inside and outside of submissiveness, regularly.

Those moments where its service might look like abuse… where its service might look like slave being treated like shit… Those moments don’t have any chance of reaching slave or doing any damage to it. it is being so thoroughly protected by its Master. For every one act of extreme degradation, there are 5 of affirmation. Hell, even after being asked to go low, it is immediately picked right back up with thorough aftercare…

slave is in a bit of rough patch in life. it’s struggling, and currently has more worries than it has ever had before. But the thought that it is a worthless human being has never crossed its mind once. it is being protected from that feeling. slave’s not doing great in some aspects of its life. But it’s excelling in others. Some things might be bad, but its relationships are great. it has in slavery alone two VERY VERY powerful allies in Master and Sir. Their presence prevents it from even going too low in its day to day life.

This is probably one of the most difficult things to convey to an outsider. But even in the moments that might look the scariest… slave is much better than okay. slave is exploring things that could be unsafe to explore in a different environment… and it’s doing so alongside a man that has earned its trust in the deepest ways. it’s exploring the darker side of its desires with a Master that will prioritize its safety and seeing slave through in one piece above all else… even as His actions facilitate the scene.

So even though slave came into slavery misguided by images of hard use and abuse…. There is a lot that goes on behind the scenes in a long-term M/s relationship.



pdxmaster:
When you start thinking about submission, it can feel like a big dark thing. Think that it will leave you a different person on the other side. You may even think you need to be kidnapped, or forced, or blackmailed, made to do these things. Or you want to do it once really deep and “get it out of your system”.

The truth is, if you find the right guy to submit to it will be a joy to go down that path with them. You might find freedom in submission and giving up (some, or lots of) control. You might feel more like yourself than you ever thought you could be. And, your heart might feel like bursting from finally feeling like one whole person. Yes, you’re different on the other side. But it’s still just you and what you’re becoming with him.

Thursday, January 3, 2019

Slave Poses and Protocols

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hadriantemple:

The idea of ‘slave poses’ is mostly drawn from John Norman’s Gor novels, which inspired Gorean BDSM. It’s mostly a heterosexual male superiority practice. If this sort of complex protocol is your thing, great!

But don’t assume that these poses are universal or that all slaves have to learn them. I don’t know any master who has bothered to train his boy like this, although the Wait pose is pretty common (due to the fact that many gay kinksters in the 50s and 60s had served in the military) and Collar Me turns up in the porn a lot. Complex protocol can be fun, but it’s also tiring and often more trouble then it’s worth (imao).

Assuming you’re practicing safety and consent, do the bdsm that makes sense for you and your partner. Don’t let anyone tell you that you have to do it a specific way. Use the rules that feel sexy and practical for you and ignore the ones that don’t. There’s no One Right Way to do bdsm, just the Right Way for You.



Papa Tony:

I agree, that's a lot of highly-specific training. I don't have the patience.

However….

I DO have certain protocols that I use with my slaves, and that work really well for us. We only use them in public (and entirely non-verbally), and always while I am doing Top Talk with other Doms in a group:

- I will poke the slave in the chest with three fingers, and then step away. This is a non-verbal communication meaning: "Stay here - I will come back and collect the slave."

- I will be entirely involved in chatting with another Sir, and I KNOW that the slave is bored and feeling ignored. So, I will make significant eye-contact with the slave, and slap my chest. This means "Feel free to climb me like a mountain while I am chatting. I want some body-contact and some worshipful attention. I will ignore you outwardly, but I will be amused as the other Doms watch me casually taking all of the back-of-the-neck smooches and groping as my natural right."

- Or, I will slap the side of my thigh. Meaning: "Kneel by My side and wrap your arms around My leg. I feel like showing off My property's immediate obedience and submission. This is meant to make the other Sirs jealous!"

- If I have been cleaning-out my kidneys all evening by drinking bubbly water with lime juice (my preference), I know that my piss is running clear. Otherwise, it can upset the slave's digestion. So, in full view of the other Sirs, I will cross the pointy-finger and the Fuck You finger on one hand, and then shake them slowly from side to side. This is American Sign Language for "R R" (meaning "Rest Room"). This means "Head into the Men's Room (or, alternatively, drop to your knees here in the center of the bar) and drink My piss." If it's a bar where such behavior is frowned upon, I will invite the other Sirs to gather in a tight circle around us, to block the general public's view.

- I will hold my hand in a shape that pretends to be holding a glass, catch the slave's eye, and pretend to toss back a drink. That means "It's time for the beverage of the evening that we discussed earlier, slave." Some evenings, I might want something alcoholic, but if I am demonstrating ANY kind of kinky play in the bar, I always remain utterly sober. Safe, sane and consensual, baby!

These NOT protocols, but they are worth sharing:

- I like having the slave douche and grease his ass before we head out to the bar. He's wearing his cock-cage and his assless chaps with some skimpy shorts. I'll gather some Sirs in a semi-circle on one back corner of the bar, and while I'm chatting with them, I will casually molest the slave… I'll stick a greased thumb (with a smooth, short nail) up his ass and play with his prostate. Pretty soon, he's dancing on tippy-toe, and in a frenzy of sexual need, while the other Sirs block the view of outsiders.

- If the slave is NOT caged, then I will have him wear flimsy Spandex shorts, and gently pinch the meaty part of the skin under the head of his cock. I'll talk dirty to the slave (he's been on chastity for three weeks, and his IQ has dropped eighty points by this time). Pretty soon, he cums with no further stimulation, in full view of the Sirs around us, and then he has to wear the mess on the front of the shorts that has leaked through.

And I smile...

Monday, December 31, 2018

Being a Slave-Owning Master Who Is Sadistic, and Sweet

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nachtsoul said: Definitions of terms in BDSM appear to vary widely. I am curious as to where you define ‘slave’ and what inner change in you made you go from non-owning to owning… and just what owning means to you. I have two boys of my own and a prospective third. In thinking on our relationships and their evolution, it leads me to curiosity about what it would mean to evolve Sir/boy to Master/slave, not that I think any of them is of a mind to go there. But I wonder anyway.

Papa Tony:

I am in no mood to make apocalyptic, all-encompassing and definitive declarations about what is right and proper. I make no pretense of being anything but what I am.

By being metaphorically naked before everyone (you see that I don’t hide very much), my goal is to be a role-model for others in similar circumstances.

Like you, good brother.

I Was Trained By My First Slave

You heard that right - slaves teach Masters. His needs made him request more from me, rather than just being my boy. I was wary of taking him on in that way. I was ignorant, but he asked so sweetly.



I found that I LIKED what the slave proposed. We started a process of making new agreements that continues to this day.

I will refer only to my first slave in the remainder of this article. I will brag about the OTHER slave in future writings.

The Slave Wanted Chastity

He already owned three cock-cages. I had had no experience with this.

Or, so I thought.

As it happily turned out, I have been into orgasm-control for my entire adult life. In my youth forty years ago, I used to delight in attending huge, blue-ribbon Championship-Round fuck-parties. I was famous for going from sling to sling, and FORCING ecstatic, full-body orgasms on anybody who wanted one. I used techniques that I have shared here and here.

I liked taking the choice of timing away from them. They liked to think that they knew what they were only possibly capable of? I would show them several steps beyond what they could imagine. It’s my ferociously-kinky desire to blow the top of their head off with pleasure.

I have had dozens of men chastise me over the years, saying “After you, I haven’t found anybody nearly as good, damn it!” That’s why I happily reveal what I know. I want everybody else to succeed.

Yes, I am bragging, but then…. It’s not bragging if it’s true.

In any case, I took to chastity-play with natural enthusiasm. It really rocks my boat! We are “cumming-up” on our ninth anniversary together. He hasn’t had an unauthorized orgasm in most of those years, and he doesn’t want another one, for the rest of his life. He now cums hands-free, nearly every time.

Nowadays, I like to make it harder and harder for him to cum. Countdown timers are nice - If he doesn’t cum by the time the timer goes off, then he’s back on chastity for another week.

Then, when he succeeds, I make the time SHORTER, next time. Very sadistic. I never promised the slave that his training would be easy.
The Slave Wants To Be Fully-Owned

We do not live together. He has a long-time, vanilla husband, as do I. So, the lovely 24/7 live-in submissive slave thing is a great fantasy, hut not practical for us.

So, we see each other a minimum of once a week, but usually several times a week. This is a good description of what usually ensues. Show it to your subs - It may appeal to them on some levels.

He has told me hundreds of times that I own every part of his body, his soul, and his orgasms. They all belong to me. I take that responsibility very seriously and pleasurably.



What I DON’T mention enough in that article is the service aspect. I have taken many joyous, gloating photos of the slave cleaning my home, while naked, collared, butt-plugged and cock-caged.

 

He also opens doors for me, bathes me (and washes carefully between my toes, (to head off athlete’s foot). He takes care of my leathers. He gives sensational foot-rubs.



The slave shaves my head and face, and makes all travel itinerary plans. He handles details that I might otherwise miss. He happily covers every aspect of serving my rather unique needs.

I am a Master who lives in a nearly-constant state of exalted deep thought (I call it “Big Brain Mode”). It can be exhausting. I need the focused services of submissives in order to function well.

Yeah, the slave is taking care of ME, but after he has completed his tasks, I rock his WORLD. Every orgasm that I allow him is a 10 out of 10. No exceptions.

He Rejoices In My Kinky Pleasures

He is not even remotely a Pain Pig. In fact, he would be perfectly happy if he never had any pain for the rest of his life.

If he didn’t know me.



Instead, he grooves on the happy, happy noises I make when I have him strapped down and vulnerable. I throw my most extreme toys and techniques at him, and he is gratified, every time. After all of these years, I can still surprise and stimulate him. He gives me constant feedback with his words, his fantasies and his behavior, which helps me to up my game.



His pleasure comes from knowing that service to me includes satisfying my sadistic nature. I can allow the Beast within me to walk the streets, and still know that I am a good man, because he is so grateful afterward.

If I go for a long period of time without going all Neanderthal on him, he will start dropping heavy hints in order to fire-up the boilers. I do get stuck in my head sometimes.
He Like To Be An Object

Being hooded makes the slave VERY happy. He likes to hand all of his power away to his trusted Sir. This started out as my idea, and he just went bonkers with pleasure.



I loan him out to other Sirs for kinky play, in my presence. They eagerly ask for my permission to play with him, because he is maximally exciting and pleasurable. I’ve never met a sub who could do what he does, in terms of pure, stimulating feedback.

Any Sir who plays with him turns into a flame-snorting lustmonster, and who makes a beeline for us at every play-event, afterward. I have been doing this for years, and have never had reason to regret it. The Sirs who know us also know that I am vigilantly protective of my fully-owned property.



I do not loan him out for sex. That is reserved for the two of us, by mutual agreement.
Here Is A Good Story, To Illustrate


I like to take the slave to international kinky events, like IML, Folsom Street Fair and the like.

I will hood and shackle him, and walk him through the crowd, guiding him with a hand on the back of the neck, and a few words: “Stop. Step up on the curb.” I like to eventually “park” him in a public place. I jam three fingertips into his chest, which is our mutually-understood protocol meaning “Stay Here.”

Then, I walk away.



I am well-known, so while I am standing thirty feet away in the crowd, dozens of folks will come up for a hug and a blessing. I will visit with them, and then say “Do me a favor - the slave is over there - Use him as if he belonged to you.”

I can do this because I KNOW what will happen. The folks that I send over would never, ever disrespect me by abusing my property. They make a few mild gestures at teasing and torturing him, along with some dirty talk, and that’s it. This pleases and excites me, and the slave glories in his submission.

I Honor The Slave’s Deep Devotion

I am courteous with the slave. His desires DEFINE him, so I would never dismiss or ignore them. He is 100% present with me in his slavery, so I return the slave’s respect and devotion with my own, entirely-honest feedback. I use these phrases, and many others, but only if they are my truth.



The more that the slave submits, the more that I dominate. He gives me feedback, so that we grow together. His hunger to serve, please and sustain my needs are vitamins for my soul, so I never miss a chance to SAY so.

I assert that my natural kindness, courtesy and sweetness only add to my value as a Sir, a Dom, and a ferocious, slave-Owning Master.
Why Listen To Only One Viewpoint?

Let’s let the slave explain, in his own words. These recordings were made after a couple of intense play-scenes, while cuddling in bed during aftercare:

Audio Clip 1

Audio Clip 2

Sunday, December 30, 2018

Dad/son and Daddy/boy relationships

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Anonymous said: I heard someone mention Dad/son and Daddy/boy relationships. Is there a difference? Or is there a difference between a Dad and a Daddy and a son and a boy?
If there are ANY differences or distinctions, it is entirely based upon the agreements and fantasies of the individuals involved.  In my own case, I have had nineteen collared boys in my life.  The relationships have been different in important ways with every one of them.


There is no formula or technical shop-manual.  We are all driven by individual desire and need.

My Years As A Daddy

Being a man with a very strong sense of self and dominance, I was a Daddy for most of my adult life.  In fact, the very first time a man called me “Daddy!” was when I was 21, and it felt right.

Really, really right.

I didn’t want to be called “Daddy Tony,” because my own father was such a terrible role-model.  I chose “Papa” as my personal scene-name and honorific, because I saw that word as  a kind, generous and affectionate term to describe myself.

 I would happily have had that name GIVEN to me in a ceremony by a crew of honored, wise elders, but by that time, they were all dead in the AIDS Holocaust.  I had to keep moving forward (as they would have wanted me to), and work toward taking their place.

What Makes Me A Daddy

Through these Daddy/boy relationships, I could practice my goal of being the good and decent man that I had never witnessed in my own family.  My boys could finally complete the incomplete relationships that they had with their own fathers, through me.

They could get the attention, praise, teaching and role-modeling that helped them get to where their hearts called them.  When they learned and grew, it caused my Daddy glands to secrete like CRAZY! ðŸ˜€

Becoming A Slave-Owning Master

Why did I switch to being a slave-owning Master, so very late in life?  I certainly had no lack of slave-applicants over the decades.  I always pushed them away:

I DIDN’T WANT TO SUDDENLY SWITCH TO BEING AN ASSHOLE.

Yes, I struggled with the same stereotypes that everybody else has internalized from porn.  “Masters” always abused, degraded, scorned and treated submissives like something that they should scrape off of their shoe, right?

I’m not that guy, by choice.  I would be too GOOD at it, and for decades, I feared that part of myself.  I grew up with that sort of vile treatment, and oh, honey - I could easily be the best psychopath around.  I learned from the best.

With my wit, my perception and my keen observation skills, it wouldn’t take me more than a few minutes to discern somebody’s weak points, and to take advantage of them.  I could CRUSH anybody’s soul in a very short time.

I Chose To Go In A Different Direction

Those same observational skills work equally as well in perceiving greatness, inner beauty and innate worth.  I see the value in others, and hold the mirror up to them and say “Do you see what I see?  Do you see the gold?  You shine like a lighthouse, and I admire you.  Let me tell you what I see.  In detail.”

So, years back, I had my epiphany, and I made a public declaration at a Butchmanns Experience weekend, with everyone there acting as my dedicated witnesses:
I am a real, bona-fide Master.  I am not like others, and I am perfect this way.  No one can ever deny my validity, ever again. I am the real thing.
At that point, I shifted in my life’s journey.  In my private life, I am a slave-owning Master.  A sweet one.  In my public life, I am now a Granddaddy to tens of thousands of people worldwide.  I was a sensational Daddy.

Now, I am a Tribal Elder.  It feels right.

Really, really right.

Saturday, December 29, 2018

Invisible Service

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followyourslaveheart:

On my coffee break this morning, as I was making a drink for Alpha G, I got to thinking about invisible service. A lot of the time, most people think that serving someone is about the grand gestures of servitude; being on your knees, worshipping feet, being used sexually, making dinner, doing chores, being spanked etc. Of course, for most of the time, it does…and much, much more.

But over time, I’ve come to realise that it’s sometimes the more subtle expressions of servitude that bring most satisfaction. We all want to hear the words, ‘Good boy!’, from our Master/Alpha/Dom. We want to see Him smile and to notice how happy or relaxed he is on account of us providing service to Him. 

But perhaps the most rewarding thing is when He doesn’t even notice what we’ve done. There may be times where you’ve gone that extra mile just to get His favourite snack that wasn’t available in a nearby shop, without telling Him how difficult it was. Or, as was the case today for me, pick up some rubbish that he accidentally dropped on the floor, or wipe away that coffee mark on His desk He didn’t know was there, or fill up His stapler before He noticed He was nearly running out. 

There are so many ways to serve Men, sometimes it’s not the most visible examples of service that make the biggest difference. As long as we always ask ourselves, ‘What else can I do? What does examplary service look like? And how can I do better?, then we are well on the way to becoming what we were born to be.

are-you-ready-2-submit:

This is what thinking outside the box is, going that extra mile (or kilometre in most cases). Subs everywhere can take a page from @followyourslaveheart’s book, and learn how service to the Superior Man can take many shapes and forms. As always, a boy who is in touch with who he truly is and taking service to the next level.

dombearmaster:

Amen to all of this.

Friday, December 28, 2018

Living A Life Of Service Means Living A Life Of Observation

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serviceorientedsub: When u strive to serve well, u must watch ur MAN. Learn what each expression means. Study HIM until u can read HIS reactions and needs in a twelfth of a second. It’s about anticipating needs and memorizing preferences.

How does HE take HIS coffee? Does HE relax faster if u start the massage at HIS feet or HIS shoulders. How does HE feel ur worship when HE doesn’t even see it sometimes? HE may get so used to coming home to HIS clothes put away that HE forgets there is even a process. This isn’t HIM taking u for granted. This is u being so skilled that having u make HIS life better is something HE comes to expect. It’s not a thankless job when u get to live be with a MAN who only thinks about ease of pleasure when HE is with u.

Take pride in HIM not even noticing ur work sometimes. Know what relaxes HIM and puts HIM into HIS happiest of places. HE may not even notice that u chose the music and the porn with HIM in mind, but HE will be more at-ease in the room. ur payback is HIS pleasure. ur payback is access to the MAN u admire, in HIS most natural state. That access is worth a lot.

u are a beta and u take quiet pride in things most people will never see or understand. Know that this makes u powerful. Learning about MEN is learning about all human behavior. Let HIM teach u about human nature and the joy of living in a hierarchy.

As it should be.