Demanding Self-Proclaimers

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this sub handled this with maturity, emotional intelligence, and self-respect. he clearly understands the difference between fantasy and reality.

subs: however you choose to identify, remember that submission is part of your power. care for it with pride; it is yours to give and yours to take away. give it when someone has inspired it, earned it, and has shown they care about your development.

there are many demanding self-proclaimers out there selling fantasy as reality. don’t buy it.

kinkythingsilike:

Wow. This is a sub any decent dom would be proud to call his. He managed to be respectful when it wasn’t deserved, stand up for himself, and know his own worth. Kudos to him.

A power exchange relationship, be it Master/slave, Daddy/boy, etc, is a symbiotic partnership. As a dom, you can only take what the sub is willing to give. It’s your job to make him trust you enough to give more and more of himself to you. I haven’t always been the best at that, but I’ve learned over the years that it’s the fundamental truth behind any kind of power exchange, whether it’s for a scene or for a live-in 24/7 relationship.

I’d count myself incredibly lucky to have a boy like the sub in these messages. It’s a shame the dom was too stupid to know what he was talking to.

Alexander Martin:

I only became aware of this when my own boy started hopping onto Scruff to look for others to play with. I was surprised how often they popped out of the woodwork. Fortunately, my boy knows how to use his block button when it’s warranted.

Know your worth boys, don’t go for guys like this. And other Sirs? I’m watching. You can and should do better than this. Our power as Sirs comes in enticing a submissive to submit. Anything else is illegal.