How Could Slaves Consent When They Had Given Up All Rights?

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Hello Sir, I’m wondering how could slaves consent when they had given up all rights to participate in decision-making in the relationship?
Alexander Martin:

Hi Anon,

Hope you’re well. I think you’re taking BDSM a little too literally.

Question: How could slaves consent when they had given up all rights to participate in decision-making in the relationship?

Answer: Consent can be withdrawn at any time by the person consenting (explained further below). Subs always control whether or not they submit to a dominant and as a result they can make decisions or enter negotiations on a decision at any time.

Support: If consent were something that once obtained was permanent, then it would simply be a matter of tricking any submissive into consenting and then a dominant could do anything he wanted. But that’s not how BDSM works. Some submissives consent only for submission in the bedroom (and thus would want input into decisions outside of the bedroom).

Here’s how consent should be properly obtained and handled.

Consent should be sought for everything a dominant wants to do sexually. If in the moment the dominant wants to try something with a sub, it is his role to try to convince a submissive to do it. If he receives a no, he should cease further attempts to convince the submissive and take no for an answer. If he gets a maybe, he should proceed with caution and be watchful for signs a submissive may be thinking of withdrawing consent.

You are always better off asking about consent than making assumptions on your partners part. The fact of the matter is that consent is the only thing that prevents what a dominant does from being rape. Dominants always want to be on the right side of the law. Lastly, a dominant should be actively asking what limits the submissive wants put on his consent for a longer relationship so that there aren’t any hard feelings or confusion.

Remember, since a submissive can withdraw consent at anytime because power is EXCHANGED with the dominant on a temporary basis for mutual sexual satisfaction. Submissives ALWAYS have the power in BDSM. They simply choose when to give it up and when to hold onto it.

I hope this makes matters clearer. Anyone trying to convince you otherwise is attempting to get away with shit.