Can a boy or slave expect care and affection from his Dom?

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Sir, can a boy or slave expect care and affection from his Dom? What if there is a death in the family, or a sibling needs help, or a sub becomes ill? Will the Dom be more of a partner when things go wrong in life? Thank You, Sir.

Alexander Martin:

You would have to ask an individual dominant this question. All of this is specific to individuals. There is not much that can accurately be said of dominants as a group.

I think you SHOULD be able to expect this. A dominant cares for his boy and is supposed to protect him and keep him safe in and out of the dungeon. I think that some guys fall into a trap of thinking where they’re concerned subs won’t respect and adore them if they drop the dominance for a single moment (even if they need to).

Also, there’s a buddy I have who is a submissive. He really likes to be abused (hit, insulted, and degraded) and he has a kinky husband. However, his husband really loves and cares for this boy, and finds it hard to let go and be the nasty dominant he was when they met because he loves him. So instead, they opened up their relationship and now his boy finds guys who can treat him as he likes, and still comes home to get played with by his husband in other ways. So there may also be dominants that love their partners and want to be close but try not to get too close for fear of losing their ability to be consensually abusive during sex.

There are dominants you can expect considerate treatment from, and dominants you can’t. You’ll have to know what you want, and find a dominant who agrees with you on how a submissive should be treated. No matter how lonely you are, it’s just going to be a bunch of heartache in the end if you go into anything significant with the wrong dominant.