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What Differentiates A Good Dominant From A GREAT Dominant? - A great Dominant will hurt as much as I’m hurting. They will feel as much as I’m feeling; their response is different than mine but they don’t shrink away from sharing in the pleasure and the pain.
Signs of a Good Dom - We always talk about “signs of a terrible Dom” so let’s talk about some signs of an actually good Dom…
Things to Remember About Me, My Boy and My Relationship - I have said it before and I’ll say it again: we are partners in a relationship first and the D/s dynamic comes second to that. I am madly in love with this guy…
A Few Things That Will Make You A More Effective Dominant - 1. Every rule you make, every command you give, should be for the betterment of your submissive, the betterment of your relationship, or the strengthening of the dynamic…
Signs Of A Fantastic Dom - We always talk about “signs of a terrible Dom” so let’s talk about some signs of an actually good Dom…
True Master, True slave - A lovely breath of fresh air
Healthy Master-slave Relationships, Defined - If someone is forcing you to do something, he is not an alpha, and if he is not an alpha then what are you doing with him anyways. When you meet a true alpha, your instincts will guide you. Stay safe.
On Responsibility and “Choice” - Being a Dominant, Alpha, Daddy… the standard we are held to MUST go higher than what is legal. We must be Ethical.
The Element Of Trust - Is a true Dom one who can use his/her power of persuasion to convince the sub to actually beg for and accept conditions they might otherwise reject?
True Master, True slave - A slave should know his place, and know what he is worth…
There's Nothing Wrong With Admitting That You Were Once Toxic - A lesson in humility. “I’m a good person. I do good things”, “I didn’t mean to hurt anyone”, “It’ll be okay if I only do it this once”…
How To Apologize - A grownup man lets go of his ego and admits guilt. Yes, even kinky folks need to know this. Play-scenes don't always turn out right.
Subs Are Not Some Objects An Alpha (Ab)uses And Tosses Away. - Subs are human beings with whom you reach happiness together. They are (your) subs, because they wanted to submit to you, they desire your domination.
Fantasy vs. Reality - I love your blog but I especially advocate treating your subs right. A lot of D/s blogs on tumblr are too heavy on the fantasy and its sad to see people think that's how it should be.
Distance and Closeness - Closeness is also very important and is represented by presence of the Master and occasional benefits, such as touch, pats and easy to hug. A loving togetherness is not a contradiction to a master-slave relationship.
Understanding the Controlling Power of Master/slave intimacy - Over time, a committed Master/slave relationship, develops an intimacy whereby each partner can intuit the other’s needs, thoughts, desires and moods at any given moment.
Good Daddies Versus Bad Daddies - Warning signs and VERY good signs
Being a Slave-Owning Master Who Is Sadistic, and Sweet - One of my most popular articles. I Was Trained By My First Slave. You heard that right - slaves teach Masters. His needs made him request more from me, rather than just being my boy. I was ignorant, but he asked so sweetly.
Understanding the Controlling Power of Master/slave intimacy - Over time, a committed Master/slave relationship, develops an intimacy whereby each partner can intuit the other’s needs, thoughts, desires and moods at any given moment.
Good Daddies Versus Bad Daddies - Warning signs and VERY good signs
Being a Slave-Owning Master Who Is Sadistic, and Sweet - One of my most popular articles. I Was Trained By My First Slave. You heard that right - slaves teach Masters. His needs made him request more from me, rather than just being my boy. I was ignorant, but he asked so sweetly.
Taking Care of Your Boy - If you wish to be a Sir you must accept the responsibility to take care of your boy, physically and emotionally.
So, You Want To Be a Master - Every Dom has an obligation to know his craft: knives cut and so can words, so know your intent before picking up any tool.
Why Some Gay Men Should Worry More About Their Maturity Than Their Masculinity - ‘My dad taught me that a real man is someone who makes others feel comfortable in their presence.’
Good Skills Make a Good Master - This kind of play is not for the faint hearted or the inexperienced. Presumably the Master is a sensible, competent Master who knows that His learning is more important than the slave's…
The following links are from the BDSM Links And Resources, created by desires-of-a-dominant-man on Tumblr. I rescued it from Tumblr's burning wreckage, so that this valuable information doesn't get lost.
He says:
I thought I would update the list of BDSM links and resources I posted a while ago, as some links were no longer working and I had several new ones to add, including a list of books. These should be particularly helpful to those who are new to BDSM and looking to explore D/s relationships, as the best way to go about that is to first read everything you can and then read even more! Not only will this allow you to educate yourself, help keep you safe and avoid any potential mistakes or regrets, but also the more you understand something, the less intimidating it will seem.
- Qualities of A Successful Dominant (Source: Polly Peachum / the-iron-gate.com)
- Domination for Nice Guys (Source: Franklin Veaux / the-iron-gate.com)
- What Makes A Good Dominant (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)
- What Should A Dominant Be (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
- How To Be A Good Dominant
- What Makes A Good Dominant
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