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Papa Tony:
Watch the one-hour video: YouTube Version - Alternate Version
Here is the information on the flogger that I currently recommend. It will be wonderful for 90% of your flogging needs, and it's ONLY THIRTY BUCKS! I have owned many of them, and present them to my favorite pupils.
For folks who prefer a larger, heavier flogger, here is the link for the “Mr. Thuddy” flogger, for beginners on a budget, and here is the review that I wrote.
The technical, how-to “Hard Skills” take up a small part of the video, and are covered fully. The rest of it is “Soft Skills”, meaning hard-earned wisdom from deep experience. In short, this is everything that you need to be POPULAR as a Flogging Top:
- How to “calibrate,” so that every new playmate gets exactly what they want, whether they know it or not.
- How to “read” body-language from behind.
- How to be a wildly-creative player, even if you only have one toy.
- Style and performance skills, for those times when the crowd is watching.
- And much, much more.
Everyone that I have taught has gone onward to great acclaim and endless fun.
This tutorial is my affectionate gift to anyone who wants to learn from a mentor, but can’t find one.
Too many gay men of my generation died of AIDS. Two new generations have risen up, without experiencing kind, wise uncles to teach, bless and initiate them. This video is a way of stepping into the gap.
If you are grateful, then please pass it along - We need to re-kindle the culture of mentoring that we lost when so many of us died!
What a wonderful legacy. My name on Fet is PapaTonyinSD, and my email is papatony @mac.com - I love to receive feedback!
Reviews of This Video
Review from Justin:
When I started learning to throw floggers a year ago… I saw your video ‘Flogging For Beginners’ and it was a game-changer for me… not just for the mechanics and techniques of flogging, but really mostly for BDSM overall, what it’s all about for me, the connection, the interaction, the intimacy.
Fast-forward a year to now: I’ve had some experience on both sides of the flogger (found out I’m a switch, to my surprise), branched out to singletails, and have had tremendous experiences of intimacy with both my SIR, my boy, and some of my friends.
Tonight, I was going through my Youtube playlists (trying to learn Florentine now) and came across 'Flogging for Beginners’ and started watching it again. It’s still GOLD. I’m happy to see it, review it, and reinforce what I’d learned before. Thank you (again) for making this video and getting your point of view and experience out there. It’s made all the difference to me. What you teach dovetails so well with what my teacher here in Seattle presents, and between the two of you, you have had a huge influence on my kink life.
There aren’t enough thanks for your influence, but 'thank you’ anyway.
Respectfully and with gratitude.
Anonymous: I'd like to thank you for sort of launching me into the bdsm scene. I found your video review of a flogger on Flog Me Baby and it was the first ever toy I purchased. It led me to watch and read more of your videos/blogs which eventually led me to create an account on FetLife and meet the couple I am currently in my first polyamorous relationship with. I am in bliss and exploring more and more every month. It's made me confident in my body & I''ve learned a lot about myself and others! Thanks!
Review from DrFrankenbeans:
So I’ve been hunting for a flogger that has good weight to it and isn’t going to break my meager piggy bank. I’m pretty particular about what I like in my impact toys and tools. I’m really tall (6'8" in my favorite boots), so mass produced lightweight crap just looks and feels pathetic in my hand.
Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you! I accidentally stumbled across your videos while digging around looking for the perfect flogger. Your videos have really helped me. I’ve done a lot of sensation play in the past, but not much with floggers. Because I’m used to crops and horsewhips I always thought the floggers were too imprecise, but your clear detailed guidance has completely changed my view on them. And the way you treat your subs is absolutely wonderful. Thank you for expressing the importance of not only aftercare, but during-care as well.
Thanks again! :)
Review from Master Chuck:
In the power exchange community, there is a huge shortage of wisdom. There is a vast ocean of Tumblr blogs that feature reblogged pictures with snarky, arrogant and ignorant captions promoting the notion that submissives are “fags” who are “worthless” and “deserve” to get bullied and beat up because some self-appointed “Alpha” stupidly equates being submissive with being weak.
Trying to serve as a counterbalance to the bullshit passed off as fact by the JO artists are a handful of grounded, intelligent men and women who write more from the brain than the heart about subjects pertaining to the safe practice of BDSM and power exchange. Their efforts are appreciated by a core group of followers whose positive feedback makes the investment in time worth it.
And from the background enters a man with so much wisdom to share; not just ideas and theory but skills and technique on how to perform in the BDSM arena and do it safely. The link to a one-hour video on Flogging for Beginners offers so much more information beyond the proper technique used to flog without causing injury; it should be required viewing for every man. and woman who calls themselves a Sir, Dom, Alpha, Master, whatever. And the unique thing is Papa Tony has been teaching Tops how to do it correctly and safely from his “best place on earth” city of San Diego for years.
Here’s the link to the video and I urge everyone who is serious about power exchange to invest the one hour it takes to view this wisdom packed video:
Review from Rob:
Papa Tony’s Flogging 101 video is the best one I’ve seen short of a live session. So far the only live instructional flogging session I’ve been to was on Florentine style before Christmas. Being new to flogging, I just kept nodding my head.
Watching his 101 video and practicing a lot let me actually be a good top and left my girlfriend amazed at how well I did. She’d been flogged before but apparently never that well let alone by a first timer.
Review from Papa Tony’s other slave:
Master,
That was really excellent. I thoroughly enjoyed it. I was jotting down comments while watching it, so here they are in a rather incoherent order.
1) You are a fucking fantastic speaker and teacher. You have such a natural gift for articulation and clarity. I don’t think You paused and said, “uh”, once during the whole video. The lesson poured forth from You with amazing organization and clarity, a whole hour! I would have had to practice for a week to give such a demonstration. You really have quite a gift. I remember that first night we met, I asked you if You were a teacher, because Your speaking style is just so good.
2) Your voice is a wonderful bass, and is so sexy. I was hard at about minute 10, squeezing myself. But, then I stopped that so that I could really listen. Still, Your voice could make me cum.
3) I remember once You were flogging me and I said on a scale of 1 to 10 that one part of it was a 5 and one part was a 7. You said, “interesting”, but didn’t elaborate. From the video, You said that You don’t want to go above a 7. In retrospect, I know that I had no point of reference for my 5 and 7. I thought that a 10 would be me crying out in pain and saying stop. So, I think I exaggerated those numbers, and they were actually lower.
4) The flogging didn’t look particularly violent, yet Bob was have quite a reaction. Looks can be deceiving.
5) I liked the part where You placed a strong hand on Bob’s face with the flogger and let him smell it. Let’s try that again. You did that once with me, and I liked it, and it was hot watching You do it with Bob.
6) I’d like to do more flogging sessions with You. You’ve already shown me that You know You have to take it easy with this novice, so I trust You. The video also shows that one of Your cardinal rules is not to damage the bottom, but show him respect and love.
7) The part about the bottom being overjoyed with a flogging session and receiving acknowledgment from the crowd and friends resonated with me. I do a lot of adventure sports on vacation, and that is very much part of the thrill. For instance, doing a bungee jump that only half the guys have the balls to do. Doing a rough rafting trip. Doing river surfing (really a fucking blast). Canyoning, Repelling, Alpine hiking, etc. There is such a thrill in being able to say, “I did it!”. Haven’t jumped out of a plane yet. Need a big guy like You to throw me out.
8) The hand motions with the floggers look easy when You do it, but the novices were very awkward at it, so it is a hard skill. Looked like one guy was in danger of hitting himself in the eye. I said the word “pillow” before you even brought it out, thinking, this guy ought to practice on a pillow.
9) Please do not ever use that razor tipped one on me. I would freak me the fuck out.
10) The discussion of landmines was very interesting. I imagine the intense emotional release that occurs during a flogging scene could really heighten a bottom’s sensitivity, break down some of his armor, and make setting off a landmine very easy.
11) I want to hold Bob while You flog him, so that I can caress him. Don’t know if this would be welcome by him. His limbic responses set off a protective instinct in me that drives a desire to comfort him.
12) The ice water scene was mysterious. I guess I have to experience this, as it didn’t seem obvious why that would be exhilarating. It must be that the skin is so sensitive after flogging.
13) There was LOTS of humor in the video. I was laughing out loud at several points.
14) Again, huge difference between the Master’s style and the guys You were teaching. It’s not easy, and they were lucky to have such patient and caring instruction from You.
When I started learning to throw floggers a year ago… I saw your video ‘Flogging For Beginners’ and it was a game-changer for me… not just for the mechanics and techniques of flogging, but really mostly for BDSM overall, what it’s all about for me, the connection, the interaction, the intimacy.
Fast-forward a year to now: I’ve had some experience on both sides of the flogger (found out I’m a switch, to my surprise), branched out to singletails, and have had tremendous experiences of intimacy with both my SIR, my boy, and some of my friends.
Tonight, I was going through my Youtube playlists (trying to learn Florentine now) and came across 'Flogging for Beginners’ and started watching it again. It’s still GOLD. I’m happy to see it, review it, and reinforce what I’d learned before. Thank you (again) for making this video and getting your point of view and experience out there. It’s made all the difference to me. What you teach dovetails so well with what my teacher here in Seattle presents, and between the two of you, you have had a huge influence on my kink life.
There aren’t enough thanks for your influence, but 'thank you’ anyway.
Respectfully and with gratitude.
Anonymous: I'd like to thank you for sort of launching me into the bdsm scene. I found your video review of a flogger on Flog Me Baby and it was the first ever toy I purchased. It led me to watch and read more of your videos/blogs which eventually led me to create an account on FetLife and meet the couple I am currently in my first polyamorous relationship with. I am in bliss and exploring more and more every month. It's made me confident in my body & I''ve learned a lot about myself and others! Thanks!
Review from DrFrankenbeans:
So I’ve been hunting for a flogger that has good weight to it and isn’t going to break my meager piggy bank. I’m pretty particular about what I like in my impact toys and tools. I’m really tall (6'8" in my favorite boots), so mass produced lightweight crap just looks and feels pathetic in my hand.
Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you! I accidentally stumbled across your videos while digging around looking for the perfect flogger. Your videos have really helped me. I’ve done a lot of sensation play in the past, but not much with floggers. Because I’m used to crops and horsewhips I always thought the floggers were too imprecise, but your clear detailed guidance has completely changed my view on them. And the way you treat your subs is absolutely wonderful. Thank you for expressing the importance of not only aftercare, but during-care as well.
Thanks again! :)
Review from Master Chuck:
In the power exchange community, there is a huge shortage of wisdom. There is a vast ocean of Tumblr blogs that feature reblogged pictures with snarky, arrogant and ignorant captions promoting the notion that submissives are “fags” who are “worthless” and “deserve” to get bullied and beat up because some self-appointed “Alpha” stupidly equates being submissive with being weak.
Trying to serve as a counterbalance to the bullshit passed off as fact by the JO artists are a handful of grounded, intelligent men and women who write more from the brain than the heart about subjects pertaining to the safe practice of BDSM and power exchange. Their efforts are appreciated by a core group of followers whose positive feedback makes the investment in time worth it.
And from the background enters a man with so much wisdom to share; not just ideas and theory but skills and technique on how to perform in the BDSM arena and do it safely. The link to a one-hour video on Flogging for Beginners offers so much more information beyond the proper technique used to flog without causing injury; it should be required viewing for every man. and woman who calls themselves a Sir, Dom, Alpha, Master, whatever. And the unique thing is Papa Tony has been teaching Tops how to do it correctly and safely from his “best place on earth” city of San Diego for years.
Here’s the link to the video and I urge everyone who is serious about power exchange to invest the one hour it takes to view this wisdom packed video:
Review from Rob:
Papa Tony’s Flogging 101 video is the best one I’ve seen short of a live session. So far the only live instructional flogging session I’ve been to was on Florentine style before Christmas. Being new to flogging, I just kept nodding my head.
Watching his 101 video and practicing a lot let me actually be a good top and left my girlfriend amazed at how well I did. She’d been flogged before but apparently never that well let alone by a first timer.
Review from Papa Tony’s other slave:
Master,
That was really excellent. I thoroughly enjoyed it. I was jotting down comments while watching it, so here they are in a rather incoherent order.
1) You are a fucking fantastic speaker and teacher. You have such a natural gift for articulation and clarity. I don’t think You paused and said, “uh”, once during the whole video. The lesson poured forth from You with amazing organization and clarity, a whole hour! I would have had to practice for a week to give such a demonstration. You really have quite a gift. I remember that first night we met, I asked you if You were a teacher, because Your speaking style is just so good.
2) Your voice is a wonderful bass, and is so sexy. I was hard at about minute 10, squeezing myself. But, then I stopped that so that I could really listen. Still, Your voice could make me cum.
3) I remember once You were flogging me and I said on a scale of 1 to 10 that one part of it was a 5 and one part was a 7. You said, “interesting”, but didn’t elaborate. From the video, You said that You don’t want to go above a 7. In retrospect, I know that I had no point of reference for my 5 and 7. I thought that a 10 would be me crying out in pain and saying stop. So, I think I exaggerated those numbers, and they were actually lower.
4) The flogging didn’t look particularly violent, yet Bob was have quite a reaction. Looks can be deceiving.
5) I liked the part where You placed a strong hand on Bob’s face with the flogger and let him smell it. Let’s try that again. You did that once with me, and I liked it, and it was hot watching You do it with Bob.
6) I’d like to do more flogging sessions with You. You’ve already shown me that You know You have to take it easy with this novice, so I trust You. The video also shows that one of Your cardinal rules is not to damage the bottom, but show him respect and love.
7) The part about the bottom being overjoyed with a flogging session and receiving acknowledgment from the crowd and friends resonated with me. I do a lot of adventure sports on vacation, and that is very much part of the thrill. For instance, doing a bungee jump that only half the guys have the balls to do. Doing a rough rafting trip. Doing river surfing (really a fucking blast). Canyoning, Repelling, Alpine hiking, etc. There is such a thrill in being able to say, “I did it!”. Haven’t jumped out of a plane yet. Need a big guy like You to throw me out.
8) The hand motions with the floggers look easy when You do it, but the novices were very awkward at it, so it is a hard skill. Looked like one guy was in danger of hitting himself in the eye. I said the word “pillow” before you even brought it out, thinking, this guy ought to practice on a pillow.
9) Please do not ever use that razor tipped one on me. I would freak me the fuck out.
10) The discussion of landmines was very interesting. I imagine the intense emotional release that occurs during a flogging scene could really heighten a bottom’s sensitivity, break down some of his armor, and make setting off a landmine very easy.
11) I want to hold Bob while You flog him, so that I can caress him. Don’t know if this would be welcome by him. His limbic responses set off a protective instinct in me that drives a desire to comfort him.
12) The ice water scene was mysterious. I guess I have to experience this, as it didn’t seem obvious why that would be exhilarating. It must be that the skin is so sensitive after flogging.
13) There was LOTS of humor in the video. I was laughing out loud at several points.
14) Again, huge difference between the Master’s style and the guys You were teaching. It’s not easy, and they were lucky to have such patient and caring instruction from You.
