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Leather Realm Workshops at San Diego Pride

Saturday, July 13:
-The Community Awareness Forum #1-(Hand’s on)
1:30-2:30pm Queerie Bradshaw - Writing About Sex for Better Sex (Discussion)
2:45-3:45pm Jason - Flogging: Making a Sensational Impact
4:00-5:00pm Alex Kitay- Erotic Spanking
5:15-6:15pm Mistress Marry - Strap on Madness
6:30-7:30pm Naria - Impact Play

-The Community Awareness Forum #2- (Discussion type -No hands on demo’s)
2:30-3:45pm Aaron Duke - What does it mean to be a leather man in 2013: Optimism is the answer.
4:00-5:30pm Louis and Danielle - From Vanilla to BDSM: Discovering your inner Perv
5:45-7:00pm Travis and Heather - Leather and Sobriety
7:30-9:00 Travis and Heather - Never Alone, Friends of Bill Meeting


Sunday, July 14:
-The Community Awareness Forum #1-(Hand’s on)
1:00-2:15pm Aaron Duke - Mummification: Bandages, Straps, and Palette Wrap
2:30-3:30pm Pup Phoenix and Kayden - Puppy Play
3:45-4:45pm Olga and blu - Vaginal Fisting
5:00-6:00pm Bikkja Amy - Electrical Play

-The Community Awareness Forum #2- (Discussion type -No hands on demo’s)
12:00-1:15pm Codi - “Sex, Gender and Play”
1:30-3:15pm Cobi - BDSM on a budget
3:30-6:00pm Mistress Melissa - Energy play
6:30-8:00pm - Travis and Heather Never Alone, Friends of Bill Meeting

Alex Kitay – Erotic Spanking website... www.uflb.org email... mrlbleather2010@gmail.com
Alex Kitay has a real heart for education and mentorship. He loves to encourage those on the edge of BDSM to take the plunge. As Mr. Long Beach Leather 2010, he got to know his community through hosting various events, all with a strong kink focus, and traveling. Alex’s experiences during his title year inspired him to work to build a stronger, more cohesive fetish community in and around Long Beach. From that inspiration, United Fetishists Long Beach was born. UFLB strives to unify and support the different factions of the fetish community while building bridges with the greater community at large. UFLB hosted this year’s very successful Leather Expo at Long Beach Pride, where many from San Diego graciously gave of their time and talents. Alex is thrilled to bring his enthusiasm and love for all things kinky to this year’s leather realm.

Spanking is often not thought of as kinky. However, there are so many different scenarios where spanking can be used that those of us in the BDSM lifestyle know just how kinky it can be. Erotic spanking, for the concerns of this workshop, is spanking with very specific goals in mind: seduction and sex! Knowing what you want and ways of getting it through the attention given to the bottom area will be discussed and demonstrated. Because spanking can be a gateway to many other forms of BDSM play, this is a perfect workshop for beginners or those curious to know more.

Aaron Duke - Mummification: Bandages, Straps, and Palette Wrap Mrsandiegoleather2012@gmail.com
Aaron Duke began his journey in the kink, leather, fetish, and BDSM community in 1998 in Dallas, Texas. Since then, he has been an avid lifetime learner of BDSM activities and techniques attending educational events throughout the country. As Mr San Diego Leather 2012, he started a monthly hands on demo with Fetish Men San Diego. This monthly event is held on the 2nd and 4th Tuesday of every month at the San Diego Eagle. Each event allows experience players to share their knowledge and information, and provides the new and curious an opportunity to explore in a safe and nurturing environment.
Want to have a good time for under $20? Learn how you can use items from the grocery store for mummification. Explore the different options of material you can use to restrain someone. Find out how to do it safely, so everyone has a great time. Once you have them restrained, what do you do with them? Come and find out. Audience member will have the opportunity to share the experience and find the joys of mummification.

Aaron Duke - What does it mean to be a leather man in 2013: Optimism is the answer.
Our leather culture has changed from its roots. It is a great time to be a leather man. See a video from men around the world sharing what being a leather man today means to them. Hear the great news of the vibrant gay leather men’s community here in San Diego. Learn about our different social, educational, and clubs here in San Diego. The internet has been blamed for diminishing our culture. Learn how we are using it in 2013 to educate, connect, and build a vibrant community.

Bikkja Amy – Electrical Play
Bikkja Amy Southern California Leather Woman (SCLW) 2006 is the Contestant Coordinator for IMsL and sits on the board for the SCLW contest. She is the Head DM for Club X-San Diego and has the honor of being Mama’s Bikkja. Since 2007, she has been the Ambassador Coordinator for the Leather Realm at San Diego gay Pride. She has been creating mischief in the San Diego and Central Valley Leather Communities for the last 13 years. True to her Capricorn nature, she jumped right into her career as a Kinky Woman when she first moved to San Diego in 2000, by becoming a member and board member of Leather and Sisterhood (L.A.S.H.) She then became Knight of Leather 2002. She facilitated the San Diego Women's Leather Rap group and co-founded the Modesto Women's BDSM Forum. As a player, she is a true Switch who is particularly fond of needles.

Absolutely SHOCKING!!! Come and learn about all the fun things that can be used to zap the living sexy daylights out of you! From Violet Wands to stun guns, this hands-on workshop will cover safety and the erotic allure of being ZAPPED!!!


Cobi – BDSM on a budget sdbusdrivers@gmail.com
Cobi is celebrating his tenth year with Club X. He currently serves as Secretary on the Board of Directors for Club X. He shares his BDSM experiences at colleges and has taught classes on food play and making toys. He also serves as Ambassador in the San Diego Leather Realm, helping curious people find their kink. Cobi is the Southwest Bootblack 2010 and because of his playful instigating, he was pinned "Mama's Bus Driver."
Maybe you’re new and not sure if you want to invest in a lot of expensive equipment at the start. You may be one of those frugal DIY types who walks into a store, looks at the price tag and says, “I could make that.” This discussion is designed for folks to share their experiences and ideas so that others can get more bang for their buck without going broke while getting off.

Codi – “Sex, Gender and Play” codiboi@ymail.com
With a background in critical gender studies, cognitive science, and hands-on experience exploring intimate power dynamics, Codi has eclectic experience in understanding intersections of personhood and BDSM roles/identities. Codi has been involved in the leather community since 2009 in varying capacities. Codi explores, studies and embodies intersections of gender with other forms of identity both academically and personally: currently in the midst of publishing articles on the topic with Duke University Press. Historically, Codi has presented at Berkeley, UCSD, Cal Poly SLO, SDSU, San Diego Pride, The UCC Church in Palo Alto, T-Camp, Peace Conference in San Diego, and the San Diego LGBT Center on topics regarding gendered identity and intersections of sexuality. Codi is committed to growing in this journey of self-discovery, sharing personal experiences with the intention to make visible specific stories/lives, and to holding space for conversations that might otherwise be rendered unvoiced.

What the hell is a preferred gender pronoun and how many of these damn things are there? How do you ask someone if they are a boy, girl, boi, transman, genderqueer, faeri butch or some other combination of gendered identities? We will discuss the differences between sex and gender, and how these things factor into sexualities. We will discuss gender play briefly and how it is different than living a trans* “lifestyle”. This is an interactive, upbeat conversation where you can ask all the questions you’ve ever wanted to ask about gender, and we will discover the answers – and more questions – together!

Jason –Flogging (Nightgaunt8)
Three years since coming out, third year as a Leather Realm Ambassador, but a realized kinkster since long before, Jason is a more than regular presence in the San Diego community and abroad. Constantly looking for ways to improve his hard and soft skills, he volunteers at and attends workshops, classes, and conferences regularly, and loves bringing back knowledge to share with the community. This last year has included BOLD, SWLC, Sin in the City, and a proud graduation from The Butchmann’s Experience, as well as regular involvement in local events and Directorship of MAsT San Diego (MDHL-fs). Most recently, he has presented for San Diego’s Club X and Tampa, FL TNG’s Kinky Camp Out. He brings formidable skills from his musical background as a percussionist into one of his favorite forms of impact/sensation play, flogging, and is here to share that with you today. You can find more information about him on Fetlife and via his professional music websitewww.percussionbyjason.weebly.com.


Flogging is one of the most widely and easily recognized SM activities in the kink/fetish world. One would be hard pressed to ignore the sights and sounds of a flogger wielding Top playing with a squirmy and thrashing or blissfully sub-spaced bottom. It’s an activity that can be used to great effect in many different ways, for many different reasons. It can be powerfully brutal or surprisingly gentle, deep and thuddy or sharp and stingy, in perfect pulse with the music or random and chaotic. Understanding what kinds of floggers are out there, how they can be used, how to care for them, and most importantly, how to use them safely, can help us minimize the risk of injury and create a pleasant (if not blissful) introduction to this type of SM play.

Kayden and Pup Phoenix– Puppy Play
My name is Kayden and I go by Ace in the scene. I am a personal trainer by day, Puppy by night. I was Mr. Trans San Diego 2011. I love educating the community on LGBT and BDSM related topics. I have done panels at local colleges and did some motivational speakings as well. I have appeared on a reality show called "Blind Dinner Party" starring Margaret Cho. I have been in the Kink community for 3 years. I believe there is always room to grow and one should always be open to learning new things.
Pup Phoenix got his start in the fetish scene a little over 15 years ago.. I have been involved with the Scouting For All as an Eagle Scout and Board Member, the Imperial Court System in both Providence, Rhode Island and San Diego. Since moving to San Diego in October of 2006, I have been involved with the Gay Rodeo Association, the Imperial Court and the Leather Community. In 2010, I, along with several fetishist created The San Diego Puppy Patrol. The group went on to create Pup Night at the San Diego Eagle. I consider myself and Alpha Pup & Handler, why both, because I can drop into pup headspace with the right Dom or group of pups, but I can also handle a pup to make sure they are well behaved in a group setting. Sometimes you just have to be a versatile to have fun and be who you are."www.pupzone.com www.woofcamp.com www.ipupcontest.comwww.tampabayleatherfetishpride.com/ipc/

Puppy Play 101 Workshop is an introduction to the ever growing fetish lifestyle and pup headspace. This workshop is meant for those interested in, involved in or just plain curious to what the whole hoopla is about being a Pup or Handler. The workshop will introduce you to what puppy play is and the roles involved, as well as cover safety, toys, gear, history and events. Since Puppy Play is an ever growing Fetish, roles and training vary upon the persons in the relationship. This is only an intro to Pup Play as a whole and will give you an idea of what you can do with in your own personal play space.

Louis and Danielle - From Vanilla to BDSM: Discovering your inner Perv dmoneyknows@gmail.com
Danielle and Louis met while studying engineering in college 3.5 years ago and they fell in love in the most vanilla way. A year later, they started to spice things up in the bedroom and kink gradually evolved their relationship into a D/s power exchange dynamic. They have been featured on the E! Network Special "The Real 50 Shades of Grey" last January. Active members of Club X for the last two years, they can be found at BDSM clubs, classes and workshops throughout southern California. Each day they try to improve their D/s while balancing the demands of everyday life.

Are you ready to take your existing relationship from vanilla to kinky? Do you want to plunge into the world of BDSM and take someone with you? How do you let someone you are dating know you are kinky? Join Louis and Danielle for a discussion of the introduction of BDSM into your life. Whether you are just dating, getting serious, or have been together for years, the journey into BDSM can be both thrilling and a delicate balance. Come hear about our undertaking, meet others ready to dive in, ask questions, and share your experiences about the process of discovering your inner Perv.

Mistress Marry – Strap on Madness
Is a very naughty Grrl, Poly Leather Dyke, retired Professional Dominant, Sex Educator, and a long time member of the Kink Community. She has contributed to a variety of events and organizations such as Seattle Women of Leather, Wicked Womyn, Leather Realm, Lupercalia, Sagacity, and the Kinky Carnival, just to name a few. Some of her favorite classes have to do with sex, blood, electricity, and people's bits. When not teaching people how to improve their kinky sex lives one orgasm at a time, you can find her on her motorcycle exploring the country. She now resides in Southern California.
Cum and join a stimulating and sexy workshop about Strap-On's. You will learn the power behind strappin' it on, how to prepare your "bottom", how to get the most out of your Strap-On, the different ways to use your Strap-On, caring for your Strap/harness, what works with what, and lots of other how to's. If you've always been curious about Strappin' it On, then cum to this workshop!

Mistress Melissa Energy play Website- SanctuaryLAX.com Email- Depechemel@gmail.com
Southern California Leather Woman 2011, International Professional, Media Personality, Public Performer, Trainer, Mentor, Lecturer, and Lifestyle Dominant, Mistress Melissa. She has been the Lifestyle since 1993. She lives this 24/7 holding positions on both Advisory Boards for DomCon and Pansexual Pride. She has volunteered at many BDSM/Leather events from coast to coast. Some of Her proudest moments include: being voted for TSR’s People’s Choice Award for Woman of the Year 2011, Mistress of Ceremonies for DomConLA 2011, Mistress of Ceremonies for DomCon Atlanta 2011, Class of International Ms. Olympus Leather 2011, and being a Regional Titleholder in the Women’s Community. She can be found at many BDSM, Body Modification, and Leather Lifestyle Community events.
Come learn background, technique and application from a Professional Who spent Her formative and Adult years in every category O/our Lifestyle offers. Mistress Melissa’s unique perspective, research, experience and humorous delivery make Her classes as entertaining as they are valuable. Her background in Touch-empathy, Energy Cleansings for Flesh-hooks/Piercing with CoRE, and Her Spiritual center in Santeria is Her foundation. Energy Play and Awareness is one of Her passionate subjects to share. She will cover the many different levels of energy from inter-personal interactions to community. When asked what is Her favorite type of play? Her answer is always "The energy exchange between P/players" . It’s about Reception, Projection, and Movement……..come and see what Her perspective is on this subject!

Naria -Impact Play
Naria Lei B. Jordan is Southern California Leather Woman 2013, and Ms. San Diego Leather 2002. She is a longtime Radical Sex Perv Poly Daddy who has been involved in the Queer BDSM Community for 31 years as a practitioner, organizer, activist, and educator in the Kinky Arts. She was a co-founder of two Women's-only leather groups in Washington, DC--Lesborados and S/Mazons. She was a co-founder, editor, and writer for the collectively published "Black Leather...In Color" and is the facilitator of the Women's BDSM Rap in San Diego. She was also the Co-facilitator for the Women's BDSM Forum in the Modesto/Central Valley area from 2004-2006.A writer, national speaker and presenter, photographer, and fancier of Fine Fierce Femme Women, Naria is a relentless sex educator, a misunderstood yet flaming Pisces, a true Water Tiger, and always enjoys pushing the envelope--as often as possible! She resides in San Diego with her wife, Bikkja Amy, 5 cats and a dog--and a household of assorted pervs.

Impact Play is the BDSM/Sexual practice in which a person (the "bottom") is repeatedly struck by either their play partners (the "top") hands and/or other implements to achieve sexual gratification. Ranging from light to heavy sensation play, depending on the medium being used, come and learn how to get the beat on...so to say!

Olga – Vaginal Fisting
Olga is an educator, community leader and proud owner of her boi blu. She loves to teach, play, and have fun. She’s passionate about teaching and loves sharing her knowledge and skills with others. She has enjoyed presenting for many groups and at numerous events around the country. Olga has been active in community groups and leadership since she discovered the scene. She and her partner blu are the producers of DESIRE Leather Women Unleashed (www.desireleatherwomen.com) – an incredible annual women’s weekend held in Palm Springs. DESIRE is an educational and play event – it’s where the women really play. Olga is a co-founder and co-facilitator of the Huntington Beach MAsT (Masters and slaves Together) chapter. She is the co-coordinator of the BDSM Workshop Series now being offered at the Long Beach Gay Lesbian Center. In her professional life Olga is a sexologist and therapist.

Vaginal fisting is an incredibly powerful, sensuous experience. This presentation will cover basic information about vaginal fisting and how to fist. Safety considerations will be discussed. Olga will also describe basic female genital anatomy and sexual responsiveness. This information can help you to better understand how to enhance your fisting experience. Olga will be assisted by her boi blu who is a skilled fister herself.

Travis and Heather travisty626@gmail.com hisdirtygirl626@gmail.com
Heather and I met in junior high and have been married for 20 years. We have evolved into a full time D/s Daddy/girl dynamic and are in a poly relationship. I have been sober for 15 years and Heather for 12. We've been very active in AA & CMA, leading workshops and H&I groups, speaking at meetings and sponsoring others. At first we thought being sober meant we were supposed to live very bland, conventional lives. In time we discovered that sobriety gave us the freedom to be our true selves, kink and all. We sought out the kink community and found a fellowship very similar to 12 step groups. Both have allowed us to explore and grow and have greatly enhanced our lives.

Leather and Sober Living -Workshop will be a panel discussion and Q&A. Topics will include: Sobriety and the Straight Pepper Diet, Living a kinky life vs old behavior, Powerlessness in a power exchange and many more.
Never Alone - Friends of Bill W. AA/NA meetings for sober leather folk and those that want to connect.

Queerie Bradshaw Writing About Sex for Better Sex
http://www.QueerieBradshaw.com/ info@queeriebradshaw.com
A sexpert with a law degree, Lauren Marie Fleming (a.k.a. Queerie Bradshaw) is a writer and speaker specializing in the legal and social issues surrounding sex, sexuality, gender and gender identity. She also provides left-brained solutions to right-brained people as a consultant and teaches digital publishing classes. Lauren is currently finishing up the final chapters of her memoir, based on her popular sex blog for Curve Magazine. She also is the editor of QueerieBradshaw.comand writes “Lascivious” for VICE Magazine, a column on sex and porn from a legal perspective. Through all of her work, Lauren encourages others to tell their intimate stories as a way to remove social stigmas and explore their desires
This workshop focuses on how to use writing as a way to explore, analyze and pinpoint sexual expression, desire and fantasies. From blog posts on gender identity to fantastical erotica to sensual love letters exchanged between partners, writing allows people to explore sex and sexuality in safe, unique, fluid ways, with a depth and personal reflection that conversations don't always allow. In the workshop, we will discuss various types of easy, effective writing styles, words and phrases to use when you don't want to sound cliche or cheesy and scenarios in which writing could be used to better your sex life. Everyone will leave the workshop with a small written piece to take home. (Please bring pen/pencil and paper, if possible. A limited amount of supplies will be provided.)