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It is not always necessary to spend your time planning a scene. I do still plan scenes from time to time mostly to make sure I’ve covered all my bases and created an immersive experience.
- Objective: First up, for yourself, think through the experience you’re trying to create and write it out for yourself as detailed or broadly as you need it. A few quick examples:
“I want the boy to be blindfolded and believe I’m fucking him with someone else watching. No one is actually there.”
“I want the boy to feel like he’s getting fucked in a bathhouse orgy.”
“I want to tie my boy up so he’s balancing on one toe and cane his ass.”
- Detailed as you like: The importance of the objective is both to add details and eliminate details. We want to add details to the scene that support the experience we are creating. We want to remove details or steps that aren’t adding to the scene. I generally prefer to keep scenes simple as detail can be a hassle and eventually I just want to play. Using the examples above:
“My boy is blindfolded so the layout of the scene isn’t important. But I’ll need to pre-record an MP3 with some sounds like
“I will want to buy candles for sweat and leather. I’d like to play some orgy porn in the background for the sounds I want. I don’t need to worry about lighting
“I want to make sure I use 50 ft of hemp rope to have the kind of suspension I want to do. I don’t need to worry about doing decorative ties since he will be facing the floor and won’t see what I’ve done on his back.”
- Steps: Layout everything in a series of steps. It really need not be anything simpler than you need to remember the progression. I’ll use the example of the “orgy” above:
= Light scented candles
= Play TIM: in the flesh
= Dim lights
= Pad saw horse
= Set lube within arm’s reach.
= Prepare the lube syringe
= Have poppers handy and open
- Materials: Not every scene needs materials but it’s handy to just have a short list of what you think you need. Once you have it, re-read the list and make sure each object is necessary enough for you to have or prepare it. You may sometimes find a scene worked fine without one or more objects. It’s ok to subtract out stuff that didn’t add the value you thought it would.
- Atmosphere: This is the last thing to consider and that’s simply how much atmosphere is needed. When preparing atmosphere first consider all the senses: Sight, Scent, Sound, Taste, and Touch. Then consider what senses will be engaged. Are there any you specifically want to enhance? Get creative with senses other than sight, you can create some really interesting spaces with sight and sent alone. But even with touch you can warm a realistic feeling dildo and flop it on your boy and drag it off slowly. Even putting a leather glove on your hand and touching him from an unexpected angle can simulate another person being present.
- Objective: First up, for yourself, think through the experience you’re trying to create and write it out for yourself as detailed or broadly as you need it. A few quick examples:
“I want the boy to be blindfolded and believe I’m fucking him with someone else watching. No one is actually there.”
“I want the boy to feel like he’s getting fucked in a bathhouse orgy.”
“I want to tie my boy up so he’s balancing on one toe and cane his ass.”
- Detailed as you like: The importance of the objective is both to add details and eliminate details. We want to add details to the scene that support the experience we are creating. We want to remove details or steps that aren’t adding to the scene. I generally prefer to keep scenes simple as detail can be a hassle and eventually I just want to play. Using the examples above:
“My boy is blindfolded so the layout of the scene isn’t important. But I’ll need to pre-record an MP3 with some sounds like
“I will want to buy candles for sweat and leather. I’d like to play some orgy porn in the background for the sounds I want. I don’t need to worry about lighting
“I want to make sure I use 50 ft of hemp rope to have the kind of suspension I want to do. I don’t need to worry about doing decorative ties since he will be facing the floor and won’t see what I’ve done on his back.”
- Steps: Layout everything in a series of steps. It really need not be anything simpler than you need to remember the progression. I’ll use the example of the “orgy” above:
= Light scented candles
= Play TIM: in the flesh
= Dim lights
= Pad saw horse
= Set lube within arm’s reach.
= Prepare the lube syringe
= Have poppers handy and open
- Materials: Not every scene needs materials but it’s handy to just have a short list of what you think you need. Once you have it, re-read the list and make sure each object is necessary enough for you to have or prepare it. You may sometimes find a scene worked fine without one or more objects. It’s ok to subtract out stuff that didn’t add the value you thought it would.
- Atmosphere: This is the last thing to consider and that’s simply how much atmosphere is needed. When preparing atmosphere first consider all the senses: Sight, Scent, Sound, Taste, and Touch. Then consider what senses will be engaged. Are there any you specifically want to enhance? Get creative with senses other than sight, you can create some really interesting spaces with sight and sent alone. But even with touch you can warm a realistic feeling dildo and flop it on your boy and drag it off slowly. Even putting a leather glove on your hand and touching him from an unexpected angle can simulate another person being present.
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