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Milking is the act of taking one’s boycock and stimulating him to completion. As always it is important to have a reason for your actions in mind. Is milking a load from your boy a reward for faithfully following your will in staying chaste? Is this a punishment for a chaste boy who did not do his chores for the 3rd week in a row?
Reasons to Milk
- Chastity: Chastity interacts with milking through the obvious denial and later release. If you really want to know a ton about the interaction between chastity and milking you should be following @chirenon. He’s probably the most prolific poster of male chastity on tumblr (he does occasionally post mmf too, so if you’re squeamish be aware). Regardless, some folks believe that a chaste boy needs to be milked for health reasons, others say that’s bullshit. I cannot definitively find an answer (that seems reliable) either way.
- Reward: Milking is a reward usually for boys who cannot or do not desire long term chastity. It’s a reward that they wait for however long they’re locked away, and when they have waited for quite some time for orgasm. Outside of chastity, some submissives take it as a sign of submission to give up control of pleasure to their dominant. In this way a dominant
- Punishment: Chaste men often take great pride in the length of time they’ve managed to stay chaste. If one misbehaves, you can threaten to milk him if he does not shape up. Fair warning though, if your chaste boy takes his chastity very seriously, it would be considered a very serious punishment and if the punishment doesn’t fit the crime you could do damage to your relationship. Alternatively for submissives that are not chaste the punishment side of a milking is when you choose not to stop milking when the orgasm occurs.
Ways to Milk
- Masturbation: A hand with or without lube is standard. If you’re lucky enough to own a stroking toy such as a flesh jack or a gel sleeve those are also fine options. It’s worth knowing what region of the boycock is most sensitive. Sometimes rubbing the head will be all that’s necessary for orgasm. Other times the frenulum (look it up) is the most sensitive spot. The last area that can be worth exploration is the Penile Raphe. It’s the urethral tube that can be seen running along the underside of the penis. Rubbing it in circles, lifting it from the penis and rubbing it between two fingers can be ways of stimulating the raphe.
- Tease and Denial: Better known as edging. Simply put you make a big effort to get your boy as close to orgasm as possible and stop. I do not suggest brinkmanship while edging. I have seen and heard of this mistake a lot. Your objective is to get him close and then back off. Do this over the course of an hour and he’ll be begging you for orgasm. Of course whether he’s earned such a reward or punishment is up to you…
- Over-stimulation: He’s panting, his face is red, and he’s so close he’ll blow his load any second now. You ramp up the intensity and he boils over jizz squirting everywhere, only you don’t back off. You maintain that intensity. He begins to writhe, to squeal, it’s too intense. That is over-stimulation. I’ve mentioned it before in other entries, but I often couple this with tease and denial. It also works well when you present a boy a deal with the devil. You’ll stop your over-stimulation in exchange for a particular task or activity that benefits you. Get creative.
Milking is the act of taking one’s boycock and stimulating him to completion. As always it is important to have a reason for your actions in mind. Is milking a load from your boy a reward for faithfully following your will in staying chaste? Is this a punishment for a chaste boy who did not do his chores for the 3rd week in a row?
Reasons to Milk
- Chastity: Chastity interacts with milking through the obvious denial and later release. If you really want to know a ton about the interaction between chastity and milking you should be following @chirenon. He’s probably the most prolific poster of male chastity on tumblr (he does occasionally post mmf too, so if you’re squeamish be aware). Regardless, some folks believe that a chaste boy needs to be milked for health reasons, others say that’s bullshit. I cannot definitively find an answer (that seems reliable) either way.
- Reward: Milking is a reward usually for boys who cannot or do not desire long term chastity. It’s a reward that they wait for however long they’re locked away, and when they have waited for quite some time for orgasm. Outside of chastity, some submissives take it as a sign of submission to give up control of pleasure to their dominant. In this way a dominant
- Punishment: Chaste men often take great pride in the length of time they’ve managed to stay chaste. If one misbehaves, you can threaten to milk him if he does not shape up. Fair warning though, if your chaste boy takes his chastity very seriously, it would be considered a very serious punishment and if the punishment doesn’t fit the crime you could do damage to your relationship. Alternatively for submissives that are not chaste the punishment side of a milking is when you choose not to stop milking when the orgasm occurs.
Ways to Milk
- Masturbation: A hand with or without lube is standard. If you’re lucky enough to own a stroking toy such as a flesh jack or a gel sleeve those are also fine options. It’s worth knowing what region of the boycock is most sensitive. Sometimes rubbing the head will be all that’s necessary for orgasm. Other times the frenulum (look it up) is the most sensitive spot. The last area that can be worth exploration is the Penile Raphe. It’s the urethral tube that can be seen running along the underside of the penis. Rubbing it in circles, lifting it from the penis and rubbing it between two fingers can be ways of stimulating the raphe.
- Tease and Denial: Better known as edging. Simply put you make a big effort to get your boy as close to orgasm as possible and stop. I do not suggest brinkmanship while edging. I have seen and heard of this mistake a lot. Your objective is to get him close and then back off. Do this over the course of an hour and he’ll be begging you for orgasm. Of course whether he’s earned such a reward or punishment is up to you…
- Over-stimulation: He’s panting, his face is red, and he’s so close he’ll blow his load any second now. You ramp up the intensity and he boils over jizz squirting everywhere, only you don’t back off. You maintain that intensity. He begins to writhe, to squeal, it’s too intense. That is over-stimulation. I’ve mentioned it before in other entries, but I often couple this with tease and denial. It also works well when you present a boy a deal with the devil. You’ll stop your over-stimulation in exchange for a particular task or activity that benefits you. Get creative.
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